A few days ago this girl messaged me privately. She asked me how I had such ‘good English’ and ‘so confidence’ and ‘how I can be also cool’. She apologised multiple times for sending me a confusing message because her ‘English was bad’ and that she felt ’embarrassed but really wanted help’.
I replied to her separately but here’s the thing: It’s not the first time someone’s sent me a message like that and I feel we need to spend a minute on it.
I’ll tell you something I know and am content with. I don’t have killer personal style. But I’m comfortable. My vocabulary of the English language is super limited and I don’t know any of the big, important, fancy words. But I know how to communicate. I’m ‘uncool’ to a large part of the world. But I’m cool to myself.
I know what I’m about and I like myself. There’s no one like me. There’s no one like you.
If you like what you choose when you go shopping, wear it with pride. Don’t diss others, don’t diss yourself.
If you can communicate what you want to say in your broken English or in your ‘terrible’ accent, you note that down as sufficient. People across the world speak within their native accents and so many are at gloriously advanced levels in their careers. If you wish to learn or improve on your English speaking skills, do it because you want to. Not because it’s ‘cool’. It’s a foreign language, not a superiority benchmark tool.
I have a particular dislike for people making fun of frivolous things like other people’s accents, their command on another language and/or their clothing choices. I refuse to even share, let alone discuss, ‘funny’ videos where the subject of humor is another human’s different taste level or lack of mastery over a skill that’s not life-essential.
So you speak your garbage English accent. You make your grammar mistakes unapologetically. You wear your poorly styled clothes. You be proud of your travel stories even if you’ve gone only as far as the train station in your city. You be ‘uncool’.
We all add color to this world. Each one of us. No one would Instagram a rainbow if it was just one shade, no?
‘Cool’ people are great. ‘Uncool’ people are great. You be you, you do you.
I’m one proud paindoo. You be a fearless one too.