Let's Talk Divorce?
So I'm looking for all of us to do something together.
Over the last couple of years, I've been reached out to by so many girls in unhappy marriages who want to opt out but don't know where to begin. I'm not talking situations where the in-laws are cranky on weekends, or there's a less than ideal husband. These are girls who're denied basic rights of life and don't feel respected by the family they live with. In some cases, they don't even have support from their own parents/siblings to come back if they need to and/or don't have the means to support themselves on their own.
I want to put together stuff that can help able women, in unfortunate circumstances, find their way to their real home: whether that's on their own, with their parents or in a new relationship.
Here's what I'd love to get from you guys - the smallest piece of information could go a long way.
1. A divorce counsel who can help me put together a simple post on a basic understanding of how to seek divorce in Pakistan, how to manage child custody, what to do if you don't have the right to divorce, etc. Even before I started the blog, I remember having come across quite a few women trying to find out the steps to get started and not knowing where to look. I want this to be their starting point and not feel lost.
2. Any information on hostels, organizations that help divorced women seek shelter if they don't work on their own and don't have family support to go back home to. I'm mostly interested in Pakistan but I am open to getting this information about ANY city in the world.
3. Organizations that help divorced women build a life for themselves through salaried jobs
4. Real life stories of women who have been divorced and provide inspiration to other women on how they have managed after. I don't care about picture perfect stories. I'd love to hear if you're still finding your way. These can be from anyone, any nationality, anywhere in the world.
5. Anything else related to divorce that you think would be meaningful.
These posts are not going to be depressing and sucking the life out of all of us. I want to change the perception of divorce from something ugly and stigmatizing to a courageous and positive action. Divorced people can be happy people, people who choose life over everything else, and together we'll all establish that.
Comment here or just email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Which relationship fits which category, this is something only the individual can decide. I cannot decipher for you whether your relationship is great, manageable or toxic. I can only provide context and material to an adult who wants to make an informed decision, which is what I hope I'll be able to do.
Keeping a relationship together that you consider healthy, whether that's romantic or not, should always be a priority. When there are road bumps, we don't ditch best friends or family in an instant, so naturally no one should be impulsive about a spouse as well. However, a toxic relationship is a toxic relationship and nobody should stay in one - for their own self and if there are children, then for them too.
I'll be waiting for your comments. Let's make some kickass content that will change lives.