Chai Talk: How much is too much?
The other day, I was talking with a friend about how some celebrities have altered their faces and while most of them look so good with the consistent edits/maintenance and practically do not age, we still ended our conversation with how all of that just feels like way too much for us to actually ever consider doing in our own lives.
Enhancing your face surgically or via other artificial methods like botox/fillers (I don't even know what else is out there now) just seems like a bit much.
But then it got me thinking about everything I do in my regular life with my own face and it got me wondering if I really do have the right to actually call anyone out on what they do with theirs when I myself try to enhance it everyday. Doing things like concealing pigmentation, making the eyes look bigger with eyeliner for example, plumping the eyelashes, hiding dark circles - there's so much nearly all of us do anyway to modify what we already have.
How does that make me different from someone who's resorting to a method that gives the same result but one that I may not be comfortable with? Aren't we all in the same boat, just with different ways of getting there?
Does that mean I appreciate artificial, surgical enhancement of one's looks? No. But after having questioned myself why, I don't really know the answer.
How is someone contouring their face everyday different from someone who actually gets the shape of their face surgically altered? How is someone who uses face creams everyday to 'fill in' their wrinkles different from someone who zaps them away entirely? How is someone using mascaras to add volume to their lashes on a daily basis different from someone who just gets eyelash extensions? Lip plumping glosses versus lip fillers? Color correcting concealers versus lasers to zap away your dark circles?
Aren't all kinds of enhancements/modifications whether temporary or permanent the same?
When I try to imagine the evils of all such doctor-supervised treatments, invasive or otherwise (like laser, fillers, etc) - they do appear more drastic especially if you're going under and they may definitely be life-threatening. Also, I know people say that with so much emphasis on the outside we create unrealistic expectations for women about how they should look, though that honestly has never been a challenge for me; I've never looked at a 40 year old celebrity who looks like she's 16 and thought that I wanted that. I only want to look my best however old I am and I do want my experience in life to show on my face. But I can understand that it may be an issue for other women.
My question is how can I claim to have the higher ground by going on an anti-ageing skincare plan, for example, to reverse wrinkes (shamefully I still don't have one but I do want it), versus someone who gets rid of their lines through a specialist?
My personal motivation everyday is to use makeup to enhance some features a tiny bit and not alter them in a way that they appear unrecognizable once the makeup's off. I want my skin to look healthy and alive, while not necessarily caring if I end up with fine lines (I'm 32 so it's already happening and honestly that's okay). I'd love to look the best at all my ages but I don't want it to cannibalise into other parts of my life where I'm only googling how to freeze my face versus what movies to watch with my husband or what books to read in my off time. I understand my regime and I'm comfortable with it and so it feels okay to me.
However, someone who doesn't do all that, could easily find all of it artificial too, and conveniently give reasons to why everything I do currently is still not justified.
So how do you decide what's right and what's not? And how do you decide how much is too much?