Thoughts and opinions since my shorter haircut
Ever since I got the short haircut and different color, I've been getting messages nearly every single day about something related to it. While a lot of people wanted to know what the cut is called and what color it was (which I've already mentioned here), most of the messages that came my way have been about things like hesitation to get a drastic chop, fear of losing length, questions around the longevity of such colors, etc.
I'm not an overthinker and I prefer to keep things simple. If I really want something, I just go for it. I understand all the messages I got about this, but I approach such things differently and so I decided to share all my opinions and comments about it with you. There were some things I was dubious about as well and some things that I learnt after the 'experiment' and so I hope it helps us all.
In no particular order.
1. If you've been wanting a shorter cut like anything, go for it. I'm talking stuff like it's coming in your dreams, you find yourself looking up short hair images on Pinterest in your lunch break and have a porn-equivalent folder on your pc containing pictures of chicks with short hair. If you really, really want it, just get it. Don't wait for divine revelation, this is it. Experiment now or you never will.
2. Do a hair consult. Prior to getting your hair chopped or colored, meet with the stylist and get a consultation done for your face, hair texture, your skintone, your love life (no?). Get comfortable with the stylist. Take lots of inspiration pictures and discuss with them what you want.
3. Find the right person. If the stylist is arrogant or cocky or you're just not comfortable with him/her, go find another. It's your hair, not theirs, so take your time to find 'the one' - Google is your friend, read reviews, ask around - do your homework. Sometimes even someone you trust can fuck up, but do your part in minimizing the risk.
4. Speak up for yourself. Ask your salon/stylist for what you want. Don't be scared especially if you're going to a bigshot place. Sometimes big stylists can be intimidating and you end up saying 'yes, yes' and coming back looking like a skinned chicken. My stylist Gemma took off a lot of my hair but first she did about 10 inches and asked me if I wanted to go shorter. Ask the stylist for their help in making you comfortable.
5. Shorter cuts can actually compliment a round face. I have a full face and I actually imagined a lob making me look like a potato wearing a wig. But I wanted the cut so bad, I didn't care. I wanted to take the risk. And I was surprised to see that it worked just fine with my round face, no potato vibes.
6. Yes, you'll lose your length and if you don't like it, it will grow back. If warts can grow back after an excision, so can your hair. It'll take some time but it will come back (unless you're eating shit and your lifestyle sucks, in that case don't blame the hair).
7. You don't have to go super short, like pixie short. Start slow, experiment with an extra few inches versus your usual, if you're majorly hesitant. If you like it, in a few months, take off a few more.
8. Sometimes a massive chop is what you need to really fix your hair. I never realized how much hair I had before the haircut. It actually started to look all healthy and nourished and man, is there some serious bounce. I always used to get a few inches chopped off when I had longer hair and while it used to breathe some life back into my hair, nothing has put everything back into order, the way this shorter do has done. Like a pair of scissors performed plastic surgery on my head. And since it started to look so healthy, I've been taking better care of it too because I don't want to go back to the times of look-mom-I-fried-my-hair. I've actually started using a heat protectant now which I never used to.
9. This color (and others like it) won't last long but it's worth it. It's not going to last you beyond a couple of months but it totally switches your look around. If you really, really, really, like red, then don't think about the longevity. You knew you weren't going to marry your high school boyfriend but you went out with him anyway. Some things have to be done. Get the color, enjoy it while it lasts and once it starts resembling a hair disease, you can do a do-over or dye it yourself with a safe drugstore color from a box. However, if this is a color that you just like and don't laahhhvvv, then don't waste your money and go buy a new lipstick or something.
10. Because such colors have the lifespan of a banana, you can always plan to do it when you have something exciting coming up. That way even though it's going to be a short experience, it'll stay in your memory for longer. Like a vacation, so you'll have lots of pictures to look back at which automatically makes the experience feel longer because it's been documented.
11. "Short hair needs so much styling, I don't have the time to do it". Blah blah blah. If you want it, then do the styling, man. It's a tradeoff, suck it up. Or learn to make it work with your natural hair texture. I actually found a shampoo that made my hair straighter than usual (Loreal Elvive Color Protect), so I haven't used a blowdryer or straightener more than 5-6 times since I got the change. ALSO, on the flip side, these are the times of unkept, messy, terrible hair. When was such hair ever trendy? This is the time to make 'shitty' hair pass off for a runway look. Ditch the tools if you don't want to use them, and find product to enhance your natural hair texture (texturizing spray, curls product, etc)
12. Go with a friend. Moral support is awesome and a well-meaning friend can sometimes even speak up and say stuff for you if you're feeling too chicken to say it. Also, if both of you get it done together, it can be epic levels of exciting.
13. Since getting both the cut and color can be pricy, get the cut first, if you're not sure about how everything will turn out. If you love the cut, then you can get it colored. If the cut's terrible (my sympathies), you can go in hiding and emerge once you have your life back.
14. If you're super unsure about how your hair would turn out, before you get it done, tell people to keep their mouths shut if they don't like it. You can ask your family or your best friend to give their real feedback only. The rest don't matter so let them know that you don't want their opinion if they don't like it. People have a tendency to go hysterical and lose their shit when girls chop off their hair, either slip them a Xanax or politely ask them to not share their opinions. I did this with a couple of people I knew, who always have negative feedback about everything - it made life a lot easy. If you can't do it in advance, as soon as you run into them, just mention, "Yep, I got it and you have to love it, I'm sorry, I can't accept any negative feedback'. If you see them still trying, I encourage you to behave like a 4 year old and shut your ears and do the 'lalalala' bit. There's nothing wrong with this - if you love your hair makeover, don't let anyone piss on it and if you don't love it, you don't need to hear anyone else make you feel worse about it.
15. If you end up with a bad haircut, don't obsess over it. Sometimes your favorite stylist will fuck you over, shit happens. I've had quite a few bad haircuts in my life, I don't remember any of them now. In just a couple of weeks, your hair can be managed into not looking so terrible and it'll officially grow out of the bad phase in just a few weeks.
16. "My mom would kill me. My husband doesn't like it". Jee acha. And? If they're saying no or requesting you to not do it, tell them it's a haircut and not a sex-change operation. It will go back to what it was. Ask for support (because it's always more fun with support). N wanted to keep a beard and I just didn't want that. But I told him he should get it for a bit, because he wanted to try it out. And I ended up liking it so much, I doubt he'll be going back to a no beard look anytime soon. When I wanted my haircut, I just told him I'm getting it and he was on board. Sometimes you can have shity ideas for sure, like tattooing your face, and then someone should definitely stop you. But when it's something so inconsequential and easily reversible as hair, please don't let yourself make it about someone's 'permission'.
17. Initial freakout after a big change is natural. Even when I got my hair cut and colored, even though 99.9% of the people told me they loved it, the initial few hours, I was unsure. I wondered if I'd made the right choice but that was the default freakout. It can last anywhere from a couple of hours to a few days. Let that pass then start cursing your life.
18. While you have it, enjoy it. Own your hair and love it. Don't stress over how much color has faded every day. Don't look too hard in the mirror and just enjoy it.
A hair change can really make feel like a new person. It's a fantastic way to change the pace on your everyday look, especially if you're someone like me and does the standard same thing almost everyday.
Will I grow my hair back? Absolutely. Will I do it right away? Nope.
Good luck with your hair adventures. Until next time.
You can see my hair makeover post with all details here.