|Fake pose picture from when I moved into this apartment, was a test shot for a magazine feature, I guess trying to show I’m a blogger wow nice cool|
Disclaimer: I’m not responsible for N’s generally overdramatic statements in life.
N: Are you my heroine?
Me: Umm, yes?
N: You’re my hero.
I had one of the busiest last few weeks with lots of work, new projects I had taken on, family visiting, Ramzan and a few other things (nothing scandalous, just boring but time-consuming stuff). It was exhausting and everyday I’d tell myself to just push a little bit harder because despite the fact that I was monumentally tired by the end of each day, I was enjoying all of it (plus it was temporary, I don’t believe in being a slave all the time).
One night I got into bed and was particularly wiped out and N said that to me. And it was like someone had given me a six-hand deep tissue massage while simultaneously feeding me chocolate. When you’re feeling really challenged, the support of anyone you care about is the best drug. And while this came from my spouse, I trust in the power of encouragement and support from anyone you love. It’s aspirin for your soul.
That night, N particularly talked to me about the blog giveaway and how proud he was of me for actually coming up with the concept of this grand giveaway that no one else was doing, and it took me back to the time when I had talked to him about the idea the very first time. We were hanging out on our couch after work, sometime in February of last year, and I had casually asked him what he thought about me getting a bunch of awesome brands together, really upping the value of the package and giving it away to just one person. At that time, the idea didn’t resonate with him but in those 10 minutes of talking to him about it, I had already decided that I was going to push through. When he saw me suddenly so pumped, he immediately got on board and said he’d help out with whatever he could. The same night I mailed two brands I really loved and asked them about joining in. A few hours later, both of them had said yes.
Just having N take me back to that time and reminding me about the beginning when something like this didn’t practically exist anywhere, particularly not in Pakistan or the UAE, I felt like I could do anything. I felt recharged, I felt even more excited. Over time, I’ve seen a couple of people copy the idea of this big giveaway, linking it to blog birthdays, etc. and that’s when you realise the power of positive dialogue – instead of something like that taking away from you, you actually end up feeling accomplished.
The giveaway is just one example. And that’s an example specific to me. I believe I can do anything on my own and I trust my capabilities more than anyone else. But I also believe that being able to support someone and being able to depend on someone are one of the most beautiful things we as human beings can do for each other. N has supported me limitless times with my work – taking over all house chores, flooding with positive affirmation, handing out hugs – and I’ve in return depended on him because it’s wonderful to be able to do that (and vice versa but I write this blog so it’s about my side, lulz).
It’s easy to forget to support, especially if both people in an equation are occupied, and even lose your shit when someone close to you is absorbed and consumed by something that takes away from your personal time together (I was working three straight weekends last month and N patiently sat next to me through all of them). As long as it’s not a way of life (because I don’t support that at all, I feel life should trump everything else), it’s the most beautiful thing to give your encouragement and support to the people you love when they’re having a tough time and allow them to depend on you.
So right after you’re done reading this, go tell a hardworking parent/sibling/best friend/husband/wife/child, how proud you are of them. And gift the both of you at the same time.