Q&A With N About My Blogging

Wednesday, May 04, 2016 The Desi Wonder Woman 80 Comments

I've been getting questions about N's take on my blogging for a while now and lately the frequency had gone up so much, I decided to just interview this guy and hear from him directly. So I asked everyone to send me their questions on Snapchat a few days ago and compiled the most common ones into this super list that should cover just about everything (I skipped questions some of you asked on other personal aspects because I wanted to keep this post just about my blogging, I'll pick them up later for some other post).

I do everything I want to do in life as long as I'm not hurting someone (the same goes for him) and therefore hadn't really asked him some of these questions myself so this is an interesting post even for me. He answered these on his own and I only proof-read this morning so this is as unadulterated as it can get. He's not very comfortable being this much in the forefront, so I love him for doing this and will be on my best behavior for the next 24 hours (there can be no guarantees beyond that).

Hope you enjoy.

Do you read her blog everyday?
Most days I do read full posts but even when I don't, I generally know what she's blogged about everyday because we talk about it after work when discussing our day (with chai thanks to yours truly).

What was your reaction when she said she wanted to be a full-time blogger?
Well, actually 'I' was the one who said you should be a full-time blogger so.....

Were you always supportive of her blogging or did she have to convince you?
See above. *grin*

What things does she ask you to do for the blog? Do you advise her on blogging related things?
She manages pretty well on her own, even some of the technical stuff, but sometimes when she's feeling lazy she asks me to help out with the backend. Otherwise, I'm mostly her sounding board - she asks for opinions on different ideas she has - most of the times she won't go with my recommendation (how rude) but it helps her out in making a decision.

How much does she work on the blog?
Typical 9-5 workday, and some days an extra couple of hours, like anyone else. She used to be an obsessive workaholic but since a few years she's been able to balance stuff better and switch off at the end of the day.

What are the things you love about her job?
It's very inspiring to live with someone who's following her passion and see it live 24/7. Also, I don't mind that I get to eat lots of free food from time to time (reference: her food reviews).

What are the things you hate about her job?
Really can't think of anything :O

What was the one thing about her blog everyone advised her against but she went ahead?
When she started, nobody took it seriously and everyone thought it was a hobby of sorts. And the most frequently asked question used to be, 'Do you plan to work or stay at home?' because it wasn't considered a legitimate career, especially given her background. But she really believed in it and had a clear vision of what she wanted it to be. And slowly managed to create something unique entirely on her own.

Have you ever wanted her to quit blogging?
No, never. Why would I want her to quit something she loves and that I enjoy as well. Whatever career she chooses or quits is always going to be entirely her choice. My job is only to support what she's happy with.

Has she changed as a person since she started blogging?
Other than balancing out the workaholic bit that I mentioned earlier, I can see that she has become more mindful, values the meaningful things in life more and has really grown as a person. I feel that it reflects in her writing as well.

Do you have to help her out with housework because of her blogging?
I do that irrespective of the blogging. It's our house so both of us have to contribute. Besides, if she wasn't blogging she'd be doing something else so I naturally have to do my part. And in fact, do more when she's unusually busy just like she would do for me if I were tied up.

Has she ever gotten recognized in public? What's your reaction if yes?
A few times and I just feel proud because it feels like an appreciation of her hard work and it's just great to hear people say she's been an inspiration.

Did you prefer her previous corporate job or this one?
This one, no doubt. She's working for herself and has created something on her own. What could be better than that.

How are you not insecure about her having such a job?
Honestly, I never thought about this until I got this question. I don't feel there's anything to be insecure about.

How do you take all the snapping she does?
Frankly, it's never bothered me. Snaps are generally so short they're not more than 2-3 minutes overall, in our entire day. Besides there are some that I really enjoy myself like when we're doing something together - like our more recent puzzles.

Do you think she'll blog forever?
I think she would blog for as long as she wants and finds it fulfilling. I've seen her evolve a lot over the last ten years and she makes a conscious effort to live a full life. So I think if she later finds something that she's more passionate about, she just might choose to go in a different direction.

And a nasty one that someone left on the blog a week ago or so, I thought I'd ask him to answer that too: How do you tolerate her?
Are you serious? I'm very fortunate to have found my soulmate as a life partner and I love every minute that I spend with her. Willing to 'tolerate' that forever ;)

Thatzzzz it. Did you enjoy? Tell me all about it.

The blog will be off tomorrow because there's a holiday in the UAE and I'll be in chutti mode. I'll be back on Friday, boys.

80 comments :

  1. OH EM GEE!!! HUSBAND GOALS!!!! Loved this post. So interesting to hear him 'speak' for the first time like this!!

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  2. Love love love love love love this post. That's all.

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  3. Bless! So supportive masha Allah :) Yaaay for you two! :D

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  4. Mashallah to you guys. For being so supportive of each other. And double mashallah for your husband for giving you the freedom to pursue whatever you're passionate about.and then doing the house chores with you. :D

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    1. Hehe thanks. I give him the same freedom too so he has no choice :D

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  5. Loveeeeeeeeeeee it. Your husband make girls believe in exceptionally good marriage MASHA ALLAH. Will make my husband read it also :D but my husband is more or less the same sorts (Alhamdulillah) except that he does not drink chai with me (non-chai drinker) :D

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    1. Same here Bushra... My husband is a non-chai drinker too .... lol

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    2. Haha, yay for good husbands, even the ones who reject chai!

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  6. Hi Nabeel! as previously mentioned my sis and I think you are husband goals and this just proves it further <3

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  7. This is such a cute post! Loved reading it. Love your blog Shehzeen!

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  8. Why would someone ask that last question? I would marry you if I was a guy or a girl with different inclinations! 😍 Masha Allah for you guys as always!

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    1. If you're offering long term commitment that means your love is real. YASSSSSS. (Thank you :*)

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  9. Ma sha Allah! This is so cute and must be such an inspiration for all the men out there! Love it.

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  10. Wow! Really supportive and cute answers this definitely is husband goals!

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  11. MashaAllah you guys! I keep showing my fiance your snaps (with Nabeel in them) that how you cute you both are. He says I'm obsessed :D

    Also I do keep track who is making chai for whom everyday :p

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    1. HAHA. I try my best to keep the chai-score even but sometimes emotional blackmail can be involved to make him chip in more :P

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  12. nabeel you da man.

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  13. MashaAllah x 1732918
    Everything goals, man. Stay happy alwayyyss❤️❤️

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  14. This was too adorable! N is so witty. I ended up laughing out loud a few times. May you two always stay happy like this MA :)

    - Maheen A

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    1. Haha. Sometimes the humor is annoying in real life :/ :P Thank you for the duas.

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  15. Awesome. And your mom's comment at the top is the cutest!

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  16. Awwww. I hope this bond grows more stronger with time. =)

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  17. This post is so much interesting.Stay blessed always u guys.Masha Allah

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  18. MashaAllah is the word for you two. I enjoy your snaps the most. Seriously, feels like family to me. N is as lucky as you are.

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    1. Yakeenan, he's as lucky! :D #selfimportance? Seriously, thank you so much!

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  19. Honestly i have followed your blog for straight 3 years...i am kind of bored now..

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  20. how adorableee!!! mashallah!!!

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  21. You guys are the cutest MA :) keep smiling both of you and to the anon above, I've been following Shehzeen just as long and think that she herself and the stuff she blogs about are becoming more and FAAAABulous! Boo for haters, Keep doing you girl! -M, your biggest Anon fan :P

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    1. YASSSSSSS. I want to tell you that I love you, please accept my love. :D

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  22. You guys are super cute. And its amazing to see him supporting you like this. You are couple goals.

    And Shehzeen, you have been an inspiration. I write for my university newsletter and you inspire that in me. :)

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    1. I love your headgear in that picture! My best friend does the hijab so I have a special appreciation for different ways of doing it :D And thank you so much, man (F)

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  23. Wow! *Utars Nazar* of you two. Masha'Allah Masha'Allah. Although I think these questions are really weird, how can people ask such questions about someone's personal life 😮 But your husband answered so welll! 10/10 for N!
    You two are absolute cuties, I hope my marriage turns out as great and fun as yours. Masha'Allah x10000

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    1. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Such a pyaara comment. And about the questions, they were really sweet in general, but when I condensed all of them down, I think they became a little direct so :)

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  24. Kudos to you both as a couple and I genuinely do hope you stay happy! However, I was referring to how he tolerates your constant snapping which I think sometimes borderlines with TMI. Why are you inviting everyone to your view your private life? I honestly think it's a bit inappropriate and often a little stupid at times. But hey whatever helps you sleep at night!

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    1. Because the definition of privacy varies for everyone. I don't know about you but I don't find anything inappropriate about solving puzzles, drinking chai and asking your husband to get you icecream.

      - Mahnoor

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    2. Again, just giving me opinion :). Why is everyone so edgy on here. Sheesh. It's called constructive criticism...

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    3. ALRIGHT SO
      a) what is "appropriate" and "tmi" varies not just across cultures and countries but also couples and relationships. it's common sense.
      b) what you can never imagine yourself doing or your relationship being like does not imply that NOBODY can be that way
      c) if you don't want to know what's up then you can follow all the people out there like me who basically post nothing at all. why do you follow a lifestyle blogger and then criticize her for blogging her life style?
      d) if something does indeed mess with your personal code of ethics... let it go. it's okay. It's not worth injecting any form of criticism and negativity into other people's lives, especially when it's a comment on their relationship.

      cheers.

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    4. ok so, let me make my point clearer since I can see many of you are unable to look beyond "hawwww, why did she write something so negative and not gush about the amazing post written about the half eaten cornetto she had last night, like the rest of us!!!" I don't think she does a bad job in her blog. Many times she's creative and funny and does provide useful information. I just think that some posts or snaps are, now how shall i put it in a way that doesn't offend all of you, umm "unnecessary" (now wait for it).....this is MY OPINION! You can choose to ignore it, or choose to think its a form of injecting negativity or whatever else you think I am trying to do. Chill out and as shehzeen herself would say, go have a cup of chai :)

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    5. Wow Sara M, aren't you just a delight to wake up to these days. Look man, I'm going to keep snapping these 'unnecessary' things that you also called 'retarded' a few days ago on a different post (constructive criticism at its best, I know) so you're going to have swallow it up like a bad pill, if you want to keep following along, because I'm totally not done with cornettos in my life, bro.

      Honest advice: Don't torture yourself, man. Let yourself free, unsubscribe.

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    6. no. i want you to wake up to such torturous posts everyday. LOL.

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    7. Mahnoor, Juhi: I'm just getting around to replying to all the comments :) Thanks for the love, pappis.

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  25. I mentioned this on Insta too that it is scary how people can be so judgmental about how someone chooses to live their lives. I never like the idea of providing fuel to such people by posts like this one. But still, it is a very cute post .. MashAllah ..love how positively Nabeel has answered every question.

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    1. I replied to this (not your question, just generally) more in detail on Facebook but will write a bit here as well. Most of the questions were phrased very kindly, when I summarized them down to a few, they perhaps lost the story, so I feel they came from a good place :)

      Anddddd so much thank you for the mashallah :*

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  26. This was so cute. I literally Aww'd at every answer. You guys are such relationship goals.

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  27. Reading this made me so angry because the questions were so passive aggressive, like the snapping one and the insecurity one. Wtf man? Though Nabeel's answers were great. He's such a cutie (I mean it in a totally non-creepy, super supportive way).

    - Mahnoor

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    1. Haha. Totally non-creepy and absolutely supportive :D And except the snapping one (I mean, what to say to that :P) the others were mostly asked in a very kind way - I think when I summarized them all down to just a few questions, they lost their story :)

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  28. Been waiting for this post ever since you mentioned it on snapchat. Lovedddd it!! You guys are super cuteeee <3 Wishing you both all the best for the future with lots of love and happiness. :)

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  29. There is always a man behind a successful woman, seriously!
    After family, a girl always need her man's support to go this far!
    Love each and every word of this post!
    Love you Shehzeen <3

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    1. A girl does not need anything except her own wits and talent to get far. I'm sure you don't mean it in a derogratory way but it's just insulting to take something a person does with hard work, talent and perseverance and credit it to the man/men in her life. Men and women are both successful because of their individual talents and blessed in their support of each other. :)

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    2. Thank you for all the loveeee. Waqai, you can do anything on your own. Support just makes it all the more better so it's truly lucky when you can find it <3

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    3. Of course Juhi, your talent and passion for work is the most important factor in success... I said this because if a passionate lady got such a husband who just like to see her wife doing all the household chores, and raising children, and do not let her do anything that satisfies her, so obviously this support kinda thing you will need... and definitely no one can stop a passionate woman to come this far, but the man's support is the peace of life... Hope you got my point now! xx

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  30. I found you on Snapchat just yesterday from facebook and now this and I am HOOKED! Why have I been living under the rock?! OBSESSED NEWBIE ALERT! Haha! Oh and heading to Twitter too! xD

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    1. Hiiiii Sana. So happy you found me, excited to have you :D

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  31. Nabeeel is the man bhei!!! What a beautiful mind. Kamal hai. You two are a great match Mashallah.

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  32. Have been following you on Snapchat , just came all the way here to read your Q/A . You and your husband are relationship goals. What a cool couple

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